The Art Of Common Courtesy

"DEFINITION : POLITE BEHAVIOR THAT SHOWS RESPECT FOR OTHER PEOPLE."

E.g : They treated us with courtesy and kindness. He didn't even know the common courtesy to say goodbye when he left.

Maziah was scrolling Twitter. Suddenly she laughed and showed me this one tweet.

Then she said "Benda ceni pun nak kecoh. Common lah orang kat KL Sentral mestilah beratur. Tak paham aku. "

But then, I had a different opinion. 

"Biarlah dia nk tweet benda baik. Sekarang ni org lupa common courtesy. Sampaikan benda tu dh tak common. Let this be a reminder to those who forget."

And so, the debate begins. Hurmm susah jugak dua dua budak 
debat. But it was more of a discussion.

She thought that there was no need to tweet this kind of things. And I thought it was okay, there's nothing wrong in portraying the good we see in people, it could become a motivation for people to do more good.

Rather than people who just bash people, when they see one bad thing people did, took a picture, made it viral on social media. Bukannya nak pergi kat org tu, bagi tahu elok-elok, instead dia aibkan lagi, not just aibkan the person himself or herself, but also giving a bad name to the country by mentioning "Malaysians did this" or "Malaysians did that" or "Apa nak jadi dengan orang Malaysia sekarang ni". 

Yes, mungkin kita tak berani nak tegur, I mean ya lah, you want to tegur some strangers on the streets. But that does not give us or any other people the right to aibkan that person.

Dari Abu Sa’id Al Khudri radhiyallahu ‘anhu dia berkata, “Aku mendengar Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda, ‘Barang siapa di antara kalian yang melihat kemungkaran, hendaklah dia merubahnya dengan tangannya. Apabila tidak mampu maka hendaknya dengan lisannya. Dan apabila tidak mampu lagi maka dengan hatinya, sesungguhnya itulah selemah-lemah iman.” (HR. Muslim)

Sometimes, people don't realise what they did is wrong. That is why we live in a community, where we have other people to help us on the things we need to improve. On the things that can only be seen from certain eyes and angles.

Nowadays , people take common courtesy to lightly. This things could make someones day. For example, a simple thank you , a smile or a seat offered to the old lady or the pregnant women you saw on the bus or the train. 

One more thing, we all had that one friend who is so kind, it's hard to hear him say no. It makes me mad how people usually take other people's kindness for granted. Even if they said it's okay, they smiled, we should know better than to just make it convenient only for ourselves. Please don't be a selfish person, if we could settle things without making it hard for other people, what is wrong with that? And if people do help, it's common courtesy to say thank you. It's common courtesy when you carpool with people and you give them some money for gas. These are common courtesy. Remember, do good to people who did good to you, do good even to people who did bad to you. Just a reminder to myself and all, May Allah bless Assalamualaikum.